I'm never really sure how I'm supposed to celebrate Mothers Day and Fathers Day. When I was single it was easy I would spend that day or at least part of that day with whichever parent and it was great. Once I got married then it added in a whole other element with in-laws and dividing time between the two families. Now that I'm a parent it gets extra tricky... I feel selfish if I don’t celebrate with my family or allow my husband to spend time with his family, but where in that equation do I fit in? Where is my celebration when I feel like we are traveling between two families with two tired kids? Never mind trying to figure out what to do for my own husband for Fathers Day...
This year had an added benefit of having two extra "parents" to consider. Not that I felt obligated or pressured by them, but somewhere in the back of my conscious was at least a consideration followed by a "crap I should probably have done something" thought in my head. This is rather odd circumstances that Hallmark has truly neglected cards for. Where is my thanks for giving me up for adoption so I could have a better life but Happy Mother's/Father's Day regardless! (I think I need to contact them, I might have a winner there)
All in all I guess it's about balance. For my Mothers Day this year we had a lovely lunch with my parents, and then my husband took the kids to his parents and I got a blissful three hours alone... Happy Mother's Day to me indeed! My poor husband got kinda screwed out of Fathers Day this year working on our bathroom remodel, but we did manage to see both sets of parents in between adventures in drywall = plumbing nightmares... and in the middle of it, I managed to send a heartfelt text to my bio-dad to wish him a Happy Fathers Day too... mission accomplished... sorta.
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